Dear Diary, I apologize for the long break. I'll try to do better, observe more. People who care, have asked me to write and oh my heart loves them.
People know I'm a Feminist. I don't even hide it, neither do I care who likes that I am or who don't. If you admire that, more grease to your elbow, if not, oh well... But here's the thing that irks me, when people tag me to subjects that aren't even about feminism. For starters, you NEED to know the definition of a "Feminist".
A Feminist is a PERSON (notice how I didn't say "female"?) who believes in the political, moral, social and economic equality of the sexes (gender) regardless of race, ethnicity, socioeconomic class, religion, ability and sexual orientation.
These stated, I wonder how some subjects that have absolutely nothing to do with the subject of feminism, manage to crop up. How? Just how?
This past Saturday, I attended a wedding, a very lively wedding. Then it got to the part where older couples were to give the newlyweds advice on how to enjoy a happy marriage. One man took the microphone, opened his mouth as said to the wife, you have to leave your husband's phone alone. Don't even touch it, let alone go through it. To avoid trouble. Diarina!! My head suddenly started to ache, I think I choked on my drink, can't quite remember. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. That women shouldn't go through their partners phones?? Nigerians are one of the most hypocritical people ever! This isn't even a joke. So all of a sudden, she shouldn't go through her husband's phone? Ehn? But at the alter of God, "two become one" okwaya? But nooo, suddenly in this matter, we are not one. Issokay, may the lord have mercy on us. We quote the Bible when it suits us, we pretend not to know the Bible when it suits us. Aren't we just adorable?! I strained my ears for when the man would advice the husband not to go through his wife's phone kwa. For where kwanu. Then it was time to feed each other. The dear MC said, 'woman, it is time to feed your husband, you have to kneel as a sign of respect and feed him". The bride knelt and fed her husband. Husband feed your wife, nobody asked him to prostrate and feed his wife. Now here I am thinking, what is his own "sign of respect"? Does that mean he doesn't have a "sign of respect" too??
I have come to discover that a lot of men hate the feminism idea, perhaps because it prevents them from cheating women, as they like to do. Ndi oke sense!! And for the women who don't like feminists, pele o, we are good, it's you we are fighting for o, it's you we pity. Let your husbands continue to use you people to play volleyball, it's you who will cry on your pillows and come out smiling. Men who don't like feminists, sorry as well, dear sir, we are also fighting for you. You have passion for things the society have labeled "female things", we are only trying to make sure you get the SAME right as females do, so you can be happy and pursue your passion, but mba, you hate the idea. Sorry inugo.
To the Feminists all over the world, remember the definitions of what we are about, don't let these people who have no clue talk thrash about us. Get it right, drawing board.. Remember, A Feminist isn't a female, A Feminist is a PERSON.
Love and Light..
People know I'm a Feminist. I don't even hide it, neither do I care who likes that I am or who don't. If you admire that, more grease to your elbow, if not, oh well... But here's the thing that irks me, when people tag me to subjects that aren't even about feminism. For starters, you NEED to know the definition of a "Feminist".
A Feminist is a PERSON (notice how I didn't say "female"?) who believes in the political, moral, social and economic equality of the sexes (gender) regardless of race, ethnicity, socioeconomic class, religion, ability and sexual orientation.
These stated, I wonder how some subjects that have absolutely nothing to do with the subject of feminism, manage to crop up. How? Just how?
This past Saturday, I attended a wedding, a very lively wedding. Then it got to the part where older couples were to give the newlyweds advice on how to enjoy a happy marriage. One man took the microphone, opened his mouth as said to the wife, you have to leave your husband's phone alone. Don't even touch it, let alone go through it. To avoid trouble. Diarina!! My head suddenly started to ache, I think I choked on my drink, can't quite remember. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. That women shouldn't go through their partners phones?? Nigerians are one of the most hypocritical people ever! This isn't even a joke. So all of a sudden, she shouldn't go through her husband's phone? Ehn? But at the alter of God, "two become one" okwaya? But nooo, suddenly in this matter, we are not one. Issokay, may the lord have mercy on us. We quote the Bible when it suits us, we pretend not to know the Bible when it suits us. Aren't we just adorable?! I strained my ears for when the man would advice the husband not to go through his wife's phone kwa. For where kwanu. Then it was time to feed each other. The dear MC said, 'woman, it is time to feed your husband, you have to kneel as a sign of respect and feed him". The bride knelt and fed her husband. Husband feed your wife, nobody asked him to prostrate and feed his wife. Now here I am thinking, what is his own "sign of respect"? Does that mean he doesn't have a "sign of respect" too??
I have come to discover that a lot of men hate the feminism idea, perhaps because it prevents them from cheating women, as they like to do. Ndi oke sense!! And for the women who don't like feminists, pele o, we are good, it's you we are fighting for o, it's you we pity. Let your husbands continue to use you people to play volleyball, it's you who will cry on your pillows and come out smiling. Men who don't like feminists, sorry as well, dear sir, we are also fighting for you. You have passion for things the society have labeled "female things", we are only trying to make sure you get the SAME right as females do, so you can be happy and pursue your passion, but mba, you hate the idea. Sorry inugo.
To the Feminists all over the world, remember the definitions of what we are about, don't let these people who have no clue talk thrash about us. Get it right, drawing board.. Remember, A Feminist isn't a female, A Feminist is a PERSON.
Love and Light..
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